LETTING GO.....

Happy new month Guys!
Is it just me, or was January just crawling? anyways I am back with another Guest post, which was written by DAINT. Thanks for taking out time to write this post, I will just keep it short and allow you enjoy the post.

Relationship isn't gold and silver.

Relationship ain't fairy tales. It has its "ups and down".

Surviving after a heart break is most especially difficult.

Letting go is even more difficult especially if you gave your all in the relationship, especially for ladies.

Anyways, I'm really here for the ladies. I know men have their own difficulties but ladies this is for you.

Did you notice the word "ladies"??? Yeah I' m not here for the girls. I know we all are girls but "maturity" here makes the difference.

 I know there are different types of ladies out there,

The ones that will break up with a guy and it doesn't affect them a bit.

The ones that will break up with a guy and it affects them deeply.

The ones that a guy will break up with and it doesn't affect them a bit.

The ones that a guy will break up with and it will affect every single nerve in their body.

Now for the ladies that go through difficult moments after a bad break up, this is for you.

After a bad break up,

My dear, there's no need to bottle things up. Cry it out!!!! Shout!!! Scream!!! Make sure it comes out. Don't kill yourself please. You know that big lump in your throat? Cry it out!

Have a very "good" and "trusted" friend, did you notice what I wrote in quotes? Hmmm... don't forget how some girls are. Some never wanted that relationship to work out for you in the first place, they might have been jealous of you and maybe were just waiting for the relationship to end so as to laugh at you/go behind your back to talk about you. So have a good friend.

If you don't have, talk to God. He listens to everyone, open up your heart to him.

Some ladies try to get it off their chest by shopping, eating lots of sweet things/food. My dear, if it works for you, do it! But hmmm... that is if you have the cash to spend oh and if you are willing to add up and loose the extra kg "loosing ain't easy though", I can't do that one. Lol!!

Mine was that I lost some kg, cause I didn't eat. I was always thinking. it wasn't easy.

Please ladies after all this, don't just sit there and cry or eat and get fat or shop and finish your money.

Try and take your mind off the heartbreak. You tried your best, you can't kill yourself "biko".

Get involved with things, Don't be an outcast. Don't be Idle.

As for me, It became hard to concentrate on my school work. But my dear, read oh!! No go fail exam because of man.

 You can take on sports ( football, basketball, volleyball, tennis), dance classes.

Pick up novels (please not romance ohh, because you may not be able to handle it ), take crime, novels, read inspiring books, watch movies, bake, cook, lol!! I remember that once, I brought out all my clothes from a well arranged wardrobe, and did them all over again.

Now, all these is for you to take your mind off this man and most importantly, for you not to dial his number or for you to not miss him.

Ladies, Ladies it's good to pass through these process. It's not harmful, sometimes, you may be suffocating but, you won't die, it's just for you to heal.

After a break up, you need to heal. You need the time to really heal deeply.

Now, the healing time will help you on your next relationship. It will make you a better person, because you won't make the same mistakes you used to make before because you will be more matured. Although we are all imperfect and we have our different flaws but having a bad character that once  destroyed or caused problems in your former relationship is not healthy to take into the next one. This healing process also needs time. My dear, you are getting old. You don't need a stupid relationship that will lead you to no where.

At this point in your life, a  "good relationship" with an end goal in view is what you need.

It's the time for you to make things right, all the things that got messed up because of your immaturity or flaws.

Jumping from one guy to another, "frolicking" the whole area .lol!!

Remember, you are a lady. Everything you do, comes back to you hmmm...

Don't forget you are growing up, life gets complicated.

So, change is good most times, embrace the new you and get ready again to meet the good, bad and ugly, but I wish you the best man ever. Don't forget to "shine your eyes" when being asked out again, do matured thinking, look well with matured eyes, don't go for looks and money alone (lolzz!!!, ladies) don't feel guilty.

Above all, seek the face of God. You really do need a healthy relationship.

Ok!!! Time to go!!!

I release you now into the world of wolves..... winks.

                                                                                                                                Written by DAINT
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